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Friendship Ball

Find a Christmas decoration ball that has a hinged opening or somehow comes apart. Inside place the Friendship ball poem (below) and a small item such as a pair of earrings, a pair of gloves etc. This ball is given to a member who can keep the item inside and add a new one for the next person. They bring the ball with the new treasure inside to the next gathering and pass it on.

The Friendship Ball

A ball is a circle,
No beginning, no end.
It keeps us together.

Like our Circle of Friends.
But the treasure inside, for you to see
is the treasure of friendship

You’ve granted to me.
Today I pass the friendship ball
to you.

Pass it on to someone who is a friend to you.

Christmas and Birthdays

Some chapters have celebrations they do for Christmas and Birthdays. Some chapters will send members a birthday card on their birthday, or mention all the birthdays for the month in their newsletters. Chapter funds may be used to pay for a drink for the member whose birthday falls during that month – or other such customs.

Some ideas for Christmas gift exchange are:

  • Everyone brings a giftwrapped box containing items to a value of $10 or $20. These are placed on a table and are given at random to members (making sure the member does not receive her own box). The boxes are reused for the next year gifts.
  • As above, but another variant can be that the gifts can have a particular theme, or can be in the form of 5 low cost items of a particular type, for example: “One for the bedroom, one for the bathroom, one for the kitchen, one personal and something red”.
  • White Elephant exchange – Everyone brings a wrapped up item with a $5 value. The first person picks a wrapped gift at random an opens it. The next person can choose to steal the gift the first person opened, or select a new one. Then the next person has their turn, and so on. When a gift is stolen, the person whose gift was stolen may either replace it with a gift stolen from someone else or select a new gift. The game ends when the last unwrapped gift has been chosen.
  • Truth be Told – Have around 10-20 statements written on slips of paper. Everyone starts with a wrapped gift in front of them. When a statement is read out, anyone who answers yes to the statement has to swap their gift with someone else. Statements can be things such as “have you ever gone overseas”, “are you wearing pearls” etc.
  • The Right/Left game – there are several versions of the stories that can be read out, but the way they are played is always the same. (There is a Christmas version in our games section) You can start with everyone holding a gift, or just use the one gift – and as the story is read out, whenever the word “RIGHT” is spoken, everyone hands the gift to the person on their right. When “LEFT” is spoken, the gift is passed to the person on the left. Some versions also include “ACROSS” where it is passed across the table to the person opposite.

Red Hatter Survival Kit

This is a lovely thing to give to a newly crowned Queen, a REDuated hatter or a new member.

This can be a box or bag filled with certain items that have special meaning.  You may like to include a list of what the items mean so the recipient knows the significance of the items.

You can choose to use only certain items from the list (and the meanings) that you feel most appropriate.  Some people give different meanings to some items, so I have included both meanings where I’ve seen more than one.


Red Hatter Survival Kit

    • Address Book ~ Your Red Hat Sister’s are always here for you!
    • Aspirin/Panadol ~ when all else fails – take two & call a Red Hat Sister!
    • Ball –  to remind you that life is a ball
    • Band-Aid ~ to fix your hurt feelings
    • Breath-mints ~ to remind you to “just breathe” | a reminder that you are worth a mint
    • Button ~ To remind you that sometimes you need to “button your lips”
    • Candle ~ when you feel in the dark to remind you to let your inner light shine so that others can see the fun in being 50+.
    • Chocolate ~ to remind you of the sweetness of family & friends | To remind you that life is like a box of chocolates – you never know what you’re going to get
    • Cotton Balls ~ for those times when you can’t hear yourself think
    • Do Not Disturb Sign ~ to remind you that you need time to yourself
    • Ear-Plugs ~ to remind you sometimes it’s important just to listen
    • Eraser ~ to remind you that everyone makes mistakes
    • Fly swatter –  to slap yourself silly, if you ever get too serious
    • Glitter  ~ to add sparkle to your life & spread some on…
    • Kazoo ~ don’t forget to toot your own horn
    • Lifesavers ~ to save you from “one of those days”
    • Lollipop ~ to remind you that you can lick all your problems
    • Marbles ~ to replace the ones that you have lost & will lose
    • Mirror ~ to remind you that you are very important too
    • Nuts ~ to remind you to be a little nutty & laugh
    • Paper-Clips ~ to remind you that you are an important link in others lives
    • Peg – a reminder to “hang in there”
    • Pen & Pad ~ to write down your thoughts before you forget them
    • Penny ~ for your thoughts
    • Purple bucket ~ just in case your hysterical laughter gets the best of you! (Please go behind bushes.)
    • Pretzels ~ hugs from your Red Hat Sisters
    • Roses ~ to remind you to smell the flowers along life’s way
    • Red Glitter ~ To wish you Scarlet Sparkles!
    • Red & Purple Feathers ~ to remind you that you can fly! | Something to “tickle your fancy”
    • Red/Purple beads ~ To remind you to always dress up
    • Red wax lips ~ to release your inner child
    • Ribbon ~ a reminder that friendship ties hearts together
    • Rubber-band ~ to remind you to be flexible, and stretch yourself beyond your limits
    • Sampler of chocolate –  to remind you that life is like a box of chocolates. You never know what you’re going to get, but knowing each other makes our lives sweeter.
    • Smarties ~ To remind you that you get smarter with age
    • Snack cake ~ to remember to indulge in the pleasures of life
    • Starburst ~ to give you a burst of energy
    • Sticker – a reminder to stick together and help each other
    • String ~  to tie things together when everything falls apart | to tie up loose ends | For tying your memories together
    • Sunflower seeds  ~ so you can spit just because you feel like it
    • Teabag ~ A reminder to sit back and relax from time to time
    • Teddybear ~ So you’ll never be lost in the wilderness
    • Toothpicks ~ to remind you to pick out the good in all situations

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