Red Hats Victoria



REDuation Ceremony

The REDuation ceremony celebrates the progression from Pink Hatter to Red Hatter.


  • The Reduate can wear a pink hat which is then passed to the next youngest Pinkie to represent passing on of knowledge, that Pinkie can use that hat for her REDuation and so on.
  • The old pink hat can be burned or put away in a hat box, to symbolise that it is not needed any more.
  • The REDuate dresses in purple clothing but with a lavender shawl/cloak/fabric over the top, so that she can remove it when she is declared a Red Hatter
  • The Warning poem can be read out, and items given to the REDuate to represent the lines of the poem

Example #1
The member starts off wearing her Pink Hat and standing on a pink rug/square, with a new Red Hat being held on a cushion by the Queen who has a red rug/square in front of her. The chapter members stand on either side of the room and the Reduate starts walking towards the Queen. Carrying a basket or tote bag. As the passes the members, they hand her items from the Warning poem, such as brandy, sausages, slippers and a bunch of flowers (preferably picked from someone’s garden). At the end, the Vice Queen presents her with a copy of the Warning poem and takes the Pink hat from her head. The Queen then places her new Red hat onto her head, and presents her with a certificate of REDuation.

Example #2
The member, dressed in pink hat, stands on a pink rug and is given a pink gift bag with a symbol of her first 50 years of life (a baby bottle, nappy, doll, training bra, condom etc.). She walks towards the Queen, discarding the items from the bag as she goes. When she gets to the Queen, the Queen says: “Are you ready to leave behind your ‘Pinkness’ and move forward to embrace and uphold the spirit of the Red Hat Society?” When the member says yes, the Queen removes her pink hat and replaces it with a red hat. She is given a red gift bag with symbols of her journey to Red hattedness (tums, incontinence pads, walking stick, license for picking flowers, booklet on learning to spit etc.). The Hatter pledge/vows are read.

Example #3
Stepping stones are made using fabric/paper squares that start light pink and become red. The member walks on the stones towards the red. As she goes, the other members hand her artificial flowers starting with light pink and becoming darker until she reaches the end and received a red flower. The Queen ties the bouquet together with red and and purple ribbons, removes her pink hat and replaces it with a red hat. The pledges/vows are made

Example #4
The member arrives wearing her Pink Hat & lavender. She walks through the front garden past symbols of her youth (pink accessories). She enters the house and is directed to where she can get changed into her purple clothing and Red hat and walks to the back garden where there are symbols of her old age (red accessories, incontinence pads, glasses etc.). Each member holds a pink balloon which is popped to symbolise popping her Pink bubble.

Example #5
The members stand facing each other in a column leading towards the Queen. Pink hatters are first in the line, then the Red hatters. The REDuate holds a lit pink candle and the Queen holds a lit red candle. The hatters hold their hats to form an archway for the REDuate to walk under towards the Queen. As she passes under them, they replace their hats and turn to face the Queen. When she has arrived before the Queen, the Queen says: “Sisters, to represent the death of her old life in a PINK Hat, please extinguish the flame of your sister’s PINK candle”. The members blow out the candle, then chant “PINK be gone, PINK be gone, this girl wants a Red Hat on!”

The Queen hands her the lit red candle will say:
“Your sisters have put out your pink candle’s flame
And invite you to join in the Red-Hatter’s fame
In its place we offer this candle of red
As we ready to place a new hat on your head.
So gather around, my sisters fair
We haven’t got but a minute to spare
This princess has made her last pink bow
And she’s aching to be a Red Hat now!
No longer is 50 a birthday to dread
But cause for a celebration instead
So gather around and join in a wheel
And ask that our sister please kneel
As I carefully lift her pink hat from her head
To replace it today with a new one in red
From this day forward she’ll wear purple to say
She’s ready to come out with the big girls and play!”

The sisters all shout: “PINK is gone, PINK is gone, now a hat of Red is on! YAY!!!!”

Welcoming a New Member

New members can be welcomed with a ceremony where they can be presented with their name-badge and officially be given their Royal name.   You may also like to give them a Red Hatter survival Kit.  There are pledges/vows the new member can take as well. These can be tailored to your needs.

For the ceremony, you can call the member forth. You may like to have a red carpet (length of red fabric or scarf/sarong/pashmina), with the chapter members standing along each side to form a walkway. Members can hold (closed) umbrellas/parasols up to form an archway.

The Queen should say some words of greeting to the new member. The 10 Red Hatter commandments could be read:

  1. Thou shalt use thy Red Hat powers for good deeds (bring joy and laughter to all you meet).
  2. Thou shalt eat thy favorite foods, including chocolate. After all, diet is just a four letter word.
  3. Thou shalt be a kindred spirit in your sisterhood. Keep your confidences and friendships strong.
  4. Thou shalt put on the glitz! Wear purple glory, big red hats, flashy jewellry, and feathers: be a Dame!
  5. Thou shalt play. Be young in heart and mind and your body will follow – -at least most of the time!
  6. Thou shalt welcome the curious and explain the wonders of Red Hat to all who ask, especially small children and handsome men.
  7. Thou shalt accept the things you cannot change, big or small. We’re good at rolling with the punches.
  8. Thou shalt aspire to anything in life at any age. It’s never too late to skydive.
  9. Thou shalt honour thy age and the need to be a little bad.
  10. Thou shalt repeat the first nine commandments, over and over and over.


The member should take a pledge/vow (See examples below), which can be in the form of the Queen asking and the member responding (“Do you swear to….” and the “I do” response), or the member can be given the pledge to read from. It is customary for the member to hold their right hand on their hat while making the pledge.

After this the Queen can make an announcement that the new person is now a member of their chapter. Cheering and playing of kazoos may follow.


Pledge Example #1

“I solemnly swear that I will greet middle age with verve, humour and élan.
I will take my silliness seriously as it is the comic relief of life in the spirit of friendship and sisterhood.
I join my red/pink hat sisters as we go for the gusto together.
And beneath the frivolity we will share a bond of affection, common life experiences and a genuine enthusiasm for life and living.”

Pledge Example #2

“We do solemnly promise on our red hats,
That we will do our best to uphold the spirit
Of the ……..(name of the group/chapter) and Red hatting.
And proudly wear the colours – purple outfits and red hats, at all our functions.
And never take our hats off, even though it gives us hat hair.”

Pledge Example #3

“I, ……. pledge to have fun, and only fun with the …….. Red hat group/chapter.
I offer friendship to my Red Hat sisters and respect the ideals of the society.
I will wear my full regalia of purple (lavender) outfit with my red (pink) hat to all chapter gatherings”

Pledge Example #4

“I,…… not solemnly, but with a silly grin, pledge on to uphold the spirit of Red hatting and have fun while participating with my Red Hat sisters.
I will proudly wear my regalia of purple/lavender outfit with my red/pink hat and will participate and give all that I can with my red heart.”

Pledge Example #5

“I……. pledge to wear my colours proudly, never be ashamed of having fun,
And show my spirit of adventure at dressing up and trying something new.
I will forget the troubles of the outside world and turn back the hand of time and reach inside for the little girl within me.
I will laugh, giggle and enjoy in play and treat all fellow Red hatters with hattitude and show honour amongst my hatter sisters.”

Pledge Example #6

“I… being of somewhat sound mind, and desiring to have more fun in the prime of my life, do solemnly swear to uphold the ideals of the RHS, as soon as I figure out what they are.”

Pledge Example #7

“I,_____ , not solemnly but with a silly grin, pledge on my red/pink hat to have fun, and only fun, with ________. I will uphold the spirit by proudly wearing to all gatherings the full regalia of a purple/lavender outfit with an accompanying red/pink hat, even if I look horrific in purple/lavender. I promise to never take off my hat at gatherings, even though it gives me hat hair. I will do more than just belong. I will participate and give all that I can with my red heart. I will be more than friendly, I will be a friend in sisterhood to all the Hatters.”

Pledge Example #8

“I vow to embrace this time in my life as the beginning of the best.
I will reserve at least one day of each month for me.
I accept chocolate as a main food group.
I consider dessert as the main course of a meal.
I will do my best not to take life too seriously.
I choose to laugh as often as possible.
I believe that fun is an essential in life.
I welcome the Red Hat adventures that await me.
I accept the friendships that are around me.
I will be a dedicated Red hatter!”

Pledge Example #9

“Do you solemnly promise on your red hat, that you will do your best, to uphold the spirit of … … and The Red Hat Society and proudly wear the colours at all our functions and never take your hat off, even though it gives you hat hair?
Do you agree to deal with growing more mature with humour and to take our foolishness seriously? Do you promise to speak only of pleasant subjects at The Grateful Reds gatherings? Do you promise to learn to play your kazoo in the proper manner, or at least learn Happy Birthday? Do you join in the spirit of friendship & sisterhood as we bond together affectionately, by common, been there, done that & with real enthusiasm for whatever comes next?”

Pledge Example #10

“I, _________________________, A royal subject of the of the red hat society, do hereby pledge:
To wear my hatter colours proudly.
To never be ashamed of having fun.
To show my spirit of adventure at dress-ups by trying something new.
To forget the troubles of the “outside” world during dress-ups.
To turn back time and reach for the little girl inside of me.
To giggle, laugh, dress-up, and play.
To treat not only my chapter, but all other chapters of the red hat society with hattitude that shows honor among all my hatter sisters.”

Queen’s Coronation Ceremony


The Coronation ceremony for a Queen can be whatever you want it to be.  If a chapter starts off small, the Coronation can be done after the chapter has grown.  Perhaps done on the 1st anniversary of the chapter or other such special occasion.  The Coronation can be combined with the “Red Sash Ceremony” as well.

The following are some ideas for Coronation Ceremonies collected from various sources.

Elements that may be used in a Coronation:

  • Procession – much like a wedding ceremony, you could have someone sprinkle rose petals, red & purple confetti or glitter, someone holding a cushion with the crown on top etc.  The chapter members may be part of the procession (Either walking before or after their Queen) taking their places on either side of the throne or in a circle for the rest of the ceremony.
  • The Queen may be dressed with a royal cape
  • The Queen shall sit upon a “Throne” – Which can be a special throne or a chair decorated with purple/red fabrics.
  • Crown – this is often brought out on a cushion then placed on the Queen’s head as part of the ceremony to make it official.
  • Scepter – a jeweled stick or other such item, used as a symbol of the Queen as well as being used to tap the member on each shoulder during a naming/red sash ceremony.
  • Gifting the Queen a “Red Hat Survival Kit“.
  • Chapter members can form a circle by holding feather boas


Coronation Ceremonies

Example #1

(The “Lady of the Garter” /Vice Queen says: )
I would like to welcome everyone to the Coronation of our beloved Queen ……<Queen Name>….

Do you hereby swear on your honour, to rule in a kind and benevolent fashion?
(Queen answers: I Do/I Will)

Do you promise not to hold long and boring business meetings?
(Queen answers: I Do/I Will)

Will you endeavour not to bring in educational speakers that are boring and just plain dull?
(Queen answers: I Do/I Will)

Will you always rule with silliness?
(Queen answers: I Do/I Will)

Do you promise to promote fun, laughter, and comic relief when needed?
(Queen answers: I Do/I Will)

Will you follow and lead in the tenants from the poem “Warning” and make up for the sobriety of your youth?
(Queen answers: I Do/I Will)

Will you “pick the flowers in other people’s gardens and learn to spit”?
(Queen answers: I Do/I Will)

(The Vice Queen says:)

Upon hearing your acceptance of all vows, and on behalf of the ……<Chapter Name>…… Pink and Red Hatters, I officially declare you Queen ….<Queen Name>……  of the …<Chapter Name>…… and I would like to adorn you with your Coronation robe, crown and scepter.

May you wear your robe with regality, hold your head high, with pride in your ruby crown, and make wise declarations with your sassy scepter.  May you rule with dignity and honour!  Long live the Queen!

(All say) Long live the Queen!!! 

(Everyone should cheer and play their kazoos to celebrate their new Queen)


Example Oath #1:

I ….<Queen Name>…… do lightheartedly swear on my Red Hat that I will do my best to uphold the Spirit of Red hatting.    

I promise to have no meetings as they conjure up images of agendas, motions, and committees.  INSTEAD; 

I will invite you lovely Ladies to teas; get togethers, grand events, and fun outings.

I will gussy up as your Reigning Sovereign, setting an example that COMMANDS NOTICE and RESPECT, dispelling the notion that women our age are OLD or inclined to DISAPPEAR. If life is a stage then we will not hide in the wings.  We will be front and center kicking up our RED and PURPLE HEELS!

As a Red Hatter I promise to wear Full Purple Regalia found in thrift shops, rummage sales and bargain racks.  It is the thrill of the hunt that intrigues me.

And I promise to encourage the ladies to dig out their gloves and get them on. 

I promise to set an example for the Red Hat Sisters that aging is a matter of the mind and since they don’t mind it DOESN’T MATTER.

I promise to guide THE LADIES-IN-WAITING (Pink Hats) in the ways of Glam, Giggles, and Sisterhood.

I promise to discreetly let a Red Hatter know when something sags, bags, or droops, unless there is nothing she can do about it.  Then Ignorance is Bliss.

I promise that together we will take our silliness seriously and take our seriousness out for a laugh.

And I promise to learn to spit and sit on the pavement.  Surely someone will come by and help me up again.


Example Oath #2:

“I, ….<Queen Name>…… do solemnly swear that I, having ascended to the lofty status of Queen, will gracefully and regally fulfill the duties of the office, including, but not limited to, the following:
I will reign over my chapterettes with a kind, benevolent spirit, valuing each member for who she is.
I will promote harmony and understanding among our world-wide sisterhood.
I will wear my colors and regalia proudly.
I will wield my scepter and make grand pronouncements whenever the mood strikes.
I will honor the spirit of the little girl who lives inside myself and those of my Red Hat sisters as well.
I will promote the core values of the Red Hat Society – fun, friendship, freedom, fulfillment and fitness – where ever, whenever I can.
I will never call a ‘meeting’, make a  ‘motion’, or possess a copy of Robert’s Rules of Order. I will refuse to take myself – or anything else within my power – too seriously.
I will do myself and the Red Hat Society PROUD!


Example Oath #3:

I will greet middle age with the following mantra: Fun is more fun – after fifty.
I will always remember that silliness is the comedy relief of life.
I will wear the royal colours of red and purple and whatever else suites me at the time, with pride to every Red Hat Function.
I will spread the word to all that will listen: Everything is funny as long as it happens to someone else.
I will live the philosophy that women and cats will do as they please, and men and dogs should relax and get used to it!
I will loudly deny that a woman my age is OLD, recanting that Forty is the old age of youth, but fifty is the youth of old age!
I will welcome all visitors and friends causing happiness wherever I go, not whenever I go.
I will learn that life can only be understood backwards, even though it must be lived forwards.
I will do my best to solve the human equation by adding love, subtracting hate, multiplying good and dividing between truth and error.
I will always consider the postage stamp while I am Queen. It secures success through its ability to stick to one thing until it gets there.
I promise not to take life too seriously, knowing that I’ll never get out of it alive.
I will realize that everyone is gifted; some just open the package sooner.
I promise that confusion will not only reign in this disorganization, it will pour!!!



Coronation Videos

Red Sash Ceremony

A sash is a great way to display your bling brooches without damaging your clothing (or needing to move them onto different outfits).  Having a “Red Sash Ceremony” is a lovely way to celebrate a member becoming part of your chapter.

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The sash is a piece of wide ribbon or satin fabric,  approx 1.5 metres long, worn over one shoulder and pinned/tied/sewn at the opposite hip. It can be plain or embellished with writing or bling brooches.

For the ceremony, you can call each member forth one at a time.  Have them kneel, sit on a chair or simply stand.  They should have chosen a Royal name for themselves prior to the ceremony.

The Queen (or other officiating person) can say something such as:

“With the power that is vested in me, as Queen of the ……. <your chapter> ……
and before all of these royal attendees, I now pronounce you ……<their royal name>…… “

A Scepter or sword is tapped on each shoulder, as the Queen speaks the member’s royal name.  Then the Queen can say something such as:

“and I hereby present you with The Order of the Red Sash”

As the sash is placed on them.  A commemorative pin can be added to this, to start them in their bling collection, or can be left plain.

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